We all need a little help in regards to our self-esteem. I’ve put together a quick list of 5 things you can do to improve how you think about and how you treat yourself. Enjoy!
Positivity needs pals. You’ve heard that misery needs company, right? So does a positive outlook! If you are surrounded by negative people, especially those who put you and your ideas down, your self-esteem is going to suffer. Make sure the people you are spending your most time with are accepting, supportive and encouraging – just as you are for them.
Create your booster list. We all need a boost now and again, and the best way to get it is to remind ourselves of our past successes. Make a “booster list” of your victories (anything you feel good about – learning to skate, graduating, receiving an award, finishing a painting – really, completing any goal fits the bill) and read it often! I often encourage my clients to carry their list around with them and refer to it whenever they feel low.
Stop comparing. The grass may be greener on the other side, but it’s often just as hard to cut. Beyond that, have you ever noticed how often we come up short when comparing ourselves to others? That’s because we are usually comparing someone at their best to ourselves while we are feeling at our worst. So we highlight the other person’s accomplishments while diminishing ourselves. That’s the opposite of self-esteem.
Stop the negative self-talk. You can’t develop of healthy sense of self while also telling yourself that you are stupid, lazy, or a horrible cook. Try to look at yourself with consistent positive regard – and when the negative voice in your head pipes up, quiet it back down by looking at your booster list!
Relax. Make an oasis in your home, filled with great music, great books and great art. Spending just ten minutes a day, meditating on the things you are thankful for, reflecting on your goals, the important aspects of your life, or even just enjoying the silence and tranquility of your space can spread a greater sense of calm and confidence throughout your day.